Pursuing your dreams is often easier said than done, even in the age of 2019 where opportunity is seemingly everywhere. Many up and coming artists still face the growing challenge of establishing themselves, investing in their art and ultimately following their dream. What does this life really look like? How are artists balancing their dream and making a living to support their art in the meantime? R&B new comer Pamela J gave us some insight on how she is chasing her career dreams.
Pamela J is a singer-songwriter from Syracuse, NY. Her soulful, sultry style, while staying close to her Filipina roots, makes her unique and worth the listen. She has performed at highly acclaimed New York music venues such as “SOB’S” and the “DROM”. During the day Pamela J works for a Kia dealership, and at night transforms during her live performances.
When was the moment you knew you’d pursue music?
I was really young when I knew I wanted to pursue music. Ever since I was a little girl, I didn’t have any other aspirations. Other little girls wanted to be teachers, nurses, and I wanted to be a superstar. Filipino parents of course do not find this practical, so, education was always number one. I took a break for a little bit to go to college, although, it was the best decision I have ever made. All those years gave me something to say, and everything happens for a reason. I say that because I don’t feel that I was ready then. I didn’t want it enough. It wasn’t until a little less than a year ago, February of last year, to be exact, was when I started to really pursue music. I have been accompanied by and have met the greatest people along the way. I’m learning a lot about myself, and I haven’t looked back! 🙂
The toughest part about being an upcoming artist in 2018, I think, for me, is keeping up with social media, and putting out content. I have so much going on in my regular life, that I really try to utilize every little bit of my time to take pictures, promote myself, write music, and post, all while also keeping a 9-5.
Social media is the new way to get your content out there, and it’s so accessible, but a bit intimidating at times when you feel like you don’t have enough followers, or don’t have the likes, etc. But, I always tell myself that the greats (Mariah, Lauryn Hill, Whitney, etc) didn’t even have this outlet in the past, and they were discovered through true talent and fate. I believe that this experience chooses you, and it either works out or it doesn’t. If it does, only for a little bit, enjoy the hell out of it!!!
I really love all the projects I’ve put out. But my favorites are probably “All Day” and “Know what I want. “All Day,” because I’m happy I added the Tagalog outro in the song. I’ve gotten a lot of great feedback from the Filipino community, and that makes me so proud. I want to make the Philippines proud!!! It’s also one of my favorite songs to perform live 🙂
“Know What I Want” : I wrote this song during a snowstorm. It was 2-3 am and I was stuck in the studio. Mind you, I worked a 9-10 hour day and went to the studio after, and ended up writing and recording the whole demo by 6 am. Being able to push myself like that really made me feel proud of myself and the song!
To be honest, to keep centered, I make sure I eat and get enough sleep. I sing to keep relaxed too, l also smoke [weed]. It helps with my anxiety, and keeps my head from running 100 miles per second. I have a cat that I also adore, and he’s a great stress reliever as well.
I don’t think I have any? but I know that I do get really nervous and I make sure I pee a lot. I have this weird paranoia of peeing myself on stage. It’s so weird. Oh! I do like to drink chamomile tea with lemon and honey before hand, and I like to put honey in a bottle of water and drink that before I go on, and during my performance too!
I would love to collaborate with everyone! It would be super cool to get a collab with like H.E.R. and or Chris Brown! I love their artistry, and also I think their type of music connects with my style.
If I could give advice to anyone that’s pursuing music for the first time: DON’T GIVE UP. There are going to be slow moments, and discouraging moments but if you’ve worked hard, you will be able to enjoy the fruits of your labor sooner or later!
What are you working on now?
Right now, I’m working on my next visual for “Know what I want” 🙂 I’ve been putting different ideas and concepts together and i’m so excited to share soon! I want it to be different than my first visual. I want to show my artistic side. It sucks that I don’t have the money to really bring all of my visions to life, but I will try!
I am also writing more songs to put out, and maybe putting together an EP. I’m also doing a couple interviews that are in the works as well!…but I can’t share too much yet. hehe. Just looking forward to share future shows with everyone when the timing is all right! 2019 is going to be amazing, I can feel it!