Guest blog by Angel Law
This generation is one that I can surely say is not sure of what love truly is. We have our “social media definition” of what it is, but no one really knows. Although the bible says it plain and clear in 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 (I want y’all to look it up yourselves). But if you read that definition, none of us at this age exemplify those characteristics. We cannot fully love because we don’t know who we truly are. If you don’t know who you are you cannot choose the one you.
For you to keep putting yourself in these microwaved relationships, you are giving people discounts for what your actual worth is. Or when someone isn’t good for you, many of us stay because we think someone else should complete us. Or we don’t leave because we are honestly afraid of ourselves and being alone with ourselves. If you can’t be alone with you, why would someone else want to?
Social media makes being single seem like a bad thing. I want to tell you today that it is okay to be single. It is okay to be alone. It is okay to learn about yourself. Learn how you deal with pain. Learn how your work ethic is. Learn how you work under pressure. Learn what makes you happy. Learn what you don’t like.
When you know these things for yourself, you do not need a significant other to tell you. No one will be able to sway you and tell you who you are because you’ll KNOW who you are. And the one that you find that fits you, will ADD ON to you. But never complete you. Why? Because you’ll have completed yourself!
Maybe if all of your relationships keep failing, you need to take some time to yourself. Learn about who you actually are. Pamper yourself. Treat yourself. Learn what you want. So when someone treats you like less than you treat yourself, you won’t even want to tolerate it. You’ll know your worth. It’s a lot more fun than you think. Take the challenge today.
If you are in a “just because” relationship, just to say you have someone, get out. Go through it! All you need is yourself and Jesus!!